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The Un-Thinkable...

I basically stopped liking Alicia Keys when she married Swizz Beats.  Well...I tried.  I could never deny her talents and gifts but I just thought getting with someone who was married was tacky.  In fact, when I heard the song "Unthinkable" I thought she had a lot of nerve because rumor has it (and rumors always have truth in them...lol) that the song is about her and Swizz.  He and his wife were said to have been having difficulty and were separated when he and Alicia got together, but I felt like that was too much.  It's was my opinion--and I was entitled to it--as I am now. 

Ironically enough, as I listen to the words of this song I have managed to move past my initial opinion and into some form of contemplative thought about what it means to be drawn to someone you "should not" be drawn to because it is taboo.  I have found myself singing: "I was wondering maybe/could I make you my baby/if we do the unthinkable would it make us look crazy
Or would it be so beautiful either way I'm sayin'/If you ask me I'm ready."  Through this song I can now admit that sometimes feelings catch you off guard and you cannot always help who you love or are drawn to (I say sometimes because I like to pretend I am in control of this most of the time.  I may be deluded though...).  

What makes the whole notion of the song more powerful is the fact that the video is on point.  Its set during a time of extreme racial tension in a small town down south, and depicts a young white man and young black woman's fight against the taboo of interracial love, family allegiances, loyalty to racial groups, etc...  The video fits perfectly with the song, and fits perfectly with the thoughts of someone caring for a person who, for all intents and purposes, should be off limits to him or her.  I suppose everyone knows what that's like on some level.  Friends are in love with each other, yet no one lets it be known.  People break up and long to be back together but are to stubborn to work it out.  Unrequited love reigns because some people don't open their mouths and others don't want to own their own feelings.  Basically, people have to be bold like these lyrics: 

Moment of honesty
Someone's gotta take the lead tonight
Whose it gonna be?
I'm gonna sit right here
And tell you all that comes to me
If you have something to say
You should say it right now

I think it's important for people to go for some things despite the fact that the risk is high. The truth is, it may not turn out how one hoped...but it does show courage to try to attempt the "Unthinkable" and as long as its not a shame before God then why not give it a shot.  I would....







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