I am feeling a little bit like Sidney from Brown Sugar at this point, but I am not really sure if its because it is 1:15 in the morning and I have been ridiculously tired for about four days straight and the sleep is taking over. Perhaps I feel like Sidney because my birthday was Wednesday, and it was preceded by my obtaining another Masters degree, Mother's Day celebration and a couple of family functions and followed by more kicking it and packing to the plight of moving. Really her transitions and movement help me to relate to her character. Or...maybe I feel like Sidney because I am suppressing some deep love for a certain person and using hip hop as a metaphor to live it out. Nah...
I do think that the best relationships are built on solid friendships...and not the "friendship zone" type of friendships but healthy ones filled with love and mutual attraction. Yet, its majorily frustrating when you can't tell what your friend thinks or feels; you can't express what you think or feel, and you don't want to think or feel what you think and feel. That seemed to be what was happening in the movie Brown Sugar. Two people, crazy about each other for as long as they have known one another, decided to charge their feelings to the game and keep it moving. Obviously, that can prove to be problematic...especially when one gets involved in some seemingly committed relationship and, of course, the other one does the same later on.
I always say that just because you love someone does not mean you will be with him or her. Life does not always work out the same way the ending did in Brown Sugar. Sometimes you have to lose. But...I can't help to wonder how many times things would work out if people simply learn to open their mouths and express what they are thinking and feeling. Yet, I am aware that "in love" feelings often produce some type of imbalance where people can neither think straight nor decipher the legitimacy of their own feelings...lol. Maybe its kind of like operating from hysteria...who knows?
Ahhhh...the confusion one can find himself or herself in when feeling all Brown Sugar-ish. Yeah...I'm feeling a little bit like Sidney from Brown Sugar at this point, but I am not really sure if its due to the fact that it is 1:32 in the morning, or if I am in love, or if I used to love him--"him" being hip hop...of course. ;-) Or maybe its simply that this movie typifies unvocalized love and my sleep deprivation is causing me to really relate to it.
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I do think that the best relationships are built on solid friendships...and not the "friendship zone" type of friendships but healthy ones filled with love and mutual attraction. Yet, its majorily frustrating when you can't tell what your friend thinks or feels; you can't express what you think or feel, and you don't want to think or feel what you think and feel. That seemed to be what was happening in the movie Brown Sugar. Two people, crazy about each other for as long as they have known one another, decided to charge their feelings to the game and keep it moving. Obviously, that can prove to be problematic...especially when one gets involved in some seemingly committed relationship and, of course, the other one does the same later on.
I always say that just because you love someone does not mean you will be with him or her. Life does not always work out the same way the ending did in Brown Sugar. Sometimes you have to lose. But...I can't help to wonder how many times things would work out if people simply learn to open their mouths and express what they are thinking and feeling. Yet, I am aware that "in love" feelings often produce some type of imbalance where people can neither think straight nor decipher the legitimacy of their own feelings...lol. Maybe its kind of like operating from hysteria...who knows?
Ahhhh...the confusion one can find himself or herself in when feeling all Brown Sugar-ish. Yeah...I'm feeling a little bit like Sidney from Brown Sugar at this point, but I am not really sure if its due to the fact that it is 1:32 in the morning, or if I am in love, or if I used to love him--"him" being hip hop...of course. ;-) Or maybe its simply that this movie typifies unvocalized love and my sleep deprivation is causing me to really relate to it.
Word.
:) love is such a tricky thing but yet one choice can make your dream become a reality. But that one choice is most of the time chosen by one person... hmmm so then is it really love? *shrugs* me dont know lol!
ReplyDeleteI agree that the best relationships are build on solid friendships...so much so that I believe that the man I marry will be one I was first friends with...(People look at me a lil funny when I say that, but anything else would be really awkward for me...so I just keep waitin on the Lawd!)
ReplyDeleteCarena, I don't think love should be that mysterious...lol. I think it has to be a two-way street; at least that is preferable. :)
ReplyDeleteNil, I agree. I have to be friends with my husband first, and I have to be attracted to him as well...lol. I used to be mad when I thought I would marry a friend, but I think it was because at the time I had no remote interest in any of my male friends...lol. Nothing has changed there, but I must be besties with my boo thang...hahaha.