Attraction, Pheromones, and Hennessy

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That's right.  This is the "R" rated edition of Erie's World.  I'm hell-bent on getting it in.  No pun intended. And...just joking a bit, but since sex is always a hot topic and because since people are either always doing it, ya know--the sex, or thinking about doing it I figure we can at least talk about it.  Well, we can scratch the surface by looking at a few possible precursors to sex:  attraction, pheromones, and Hennessy.  

Attraction, pheromones and Hennessy (or brown liquor in general) each have he capacity to affect your feelings, and feelings dictate actions for a lot of people. Even though this is based on a person's individual make up, I don't think we can deny that attraction, pheromones and Hennessy each have the capacity to increase certain sensitivities.  They each enable us to be more open to situations and people we should not otherwise entertain.  In short, attraction, pheromones and Hennessy can f**k us right on up.  It will have you feeling some kind of way towards a person you just met because of the person's aura.  

Attraction is usually the main precursor to sex for most people (although it may not be the case fot the nasty, indiscriminate folks).  To be clear, I'm neither conflating attraction with lust nor reducing it to merely thinking someone looks good.  We all see folks we find "attractive" per se, but that is not what I am talking about here.  By attraction I mean something that is more like a jones.  Its inexplicable to a degree because you can't always figure out why you are drawn to someone or why the feeling is so strong.  At times, it seems more like magic or mojo because the person has a certain je ne sais quoi.  You just can't put what it is about this person into words, and you definitely can't ignore the magnetism.  The person just does it for you.  Or maybe its pheromones causing you to be drawn to the object of your desire in what seems to be an inescapable way.  

Pheromones?  Yes, pheromones--the stuff that will have you talking in a low voice late at night during the wee hours.  And we all know that the set-up is in the wee hours. Pheromones are supposedly the invisible chemical signals that make someone seem exceptionally sexy in your mind.  Apparently, when you get a whiff of the chemicals he or she emit, a you already find the person physically appealing, your desire grows exponentially.  I am nor sure how this works or how legitimate it is, but it seems plausible to me.  I like the idea of breaking down the allure to some type of pseudo-scientific reasoning because it gives us somewhere to place the blame when the shit hits the fan as is usually the case in these types of relationships.  I guess. 

  

With the pheromones defense, you can blame the fact that you didn't know how to walk away from the person you like on him or her since its the person's emitting pheromones that is drawing you to them subconsciously. So here you go:  You could't help it.  You were hoodwinked, bamboozled and now your feelings are running amok.  Totally not your fault.  


I remember talking to a friend about a guy I was into and couldn't seem to shake.  I told her it was just something in his eyes.  She responded: "There is nothing in his eyes. That's all in your feelings. He has pupils and you have pupils; that's about it.  

We concluded that it was a pheromones attack. You can't trust them.  They'll have you seeing sparkles in folk's eyes and what not.  Pheromones aren't the only thing that will have people's eyes sparkling. Hennessy will do that too.  Hennessy and pheromones are similar in that they are both intoxicating.  Kanye pointed out the effects of Hennessy when he said, "Hennessy make girls look like Halle Berry...". No doubt it makes more than a few men look attractive and seem more interesting than they actually are as well.  

Hennessy is different than both attraction and pheromones, though.  Because it's a substance caution is definitely needed.  Hennessy is also different because once you sober up you know good and damn well you made a huge mistake. It usually doesn't take too long to figure that out because one you are sober you don't have the emotional confusion to wade through.  From that point, you can just block numbers and pretend you never met the person...maybe.  

Whether its attraction, pheromones, or Hennessy (hopefully not the Hennessy), people usually end up completely enmeshed and intertwined when they are both strongly drawn to each other.  Some people will say its destiny or kismet...it was meant to be.  Some will say they have an unexplained soul connection.

Whatever it is, whether its attraction, pheromones, destiny, kismet or whatever...I think reasoning and sound judgement should be added to the equation for balance.  This way the outcomes is just as great as the initial spark.