Attraction, Pheromones, and Hennessy

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Since sex is always a hot topic and because people are either always doing it, trying to do it--ya know--the sex, or thinking about doing it, I figure we can at least talk about it.  Well, maybe we can just scratch the surface by looking at a few things that lead to sex: attraction, pheromones, and Hennessy.

Attraction, pheromones and Hennessy (which will mean brown liquor or any alcohol in genera in this blog article) each have the capacity to affect your feelings, and those feelings dictate actions and behaviors for a lot of people. Although, its  based on a person's individual make up, I don't think we can deny that attraction on any level, pheromones, and Hennessy enable us to be more open to situations and people we should not otherwise entertain.  As a matter-of-fact, they can mess us right on up if we are not careful. 

Attraction is usually the main precursor to sex for most people.  To be clear, I'm neither conflating attraction with lust nor reducing it to merely thinking someone looks good.  We all see folks we find "attractive" per se, but that does not mean its lustful, or that we even desire then, so that is not what I am talking about here.  By attraction I mean something that is more like a jones....like when you have a strong craving for something or someone. Its inexplicable to a degree because you may not know why you feel so strongly about someone. The person just has a certain je ne sais quoi you cannot put your finger on, but you just have to 'em.  The person just does it for you.  Or...hear me out...maybe its the pheromones.

Pheromones?  Yes, pheromones--the stuff that will have you talking in a low voice late at night during the wee hours.  Pheromones are supposedly the invisible chemical signals that make someone seem exceptionally sexy in your mind. Some say, when you get a whiff of the chemicals a person emits, and you already find the person physically appealing, your desire grows exponentially.  I am nor sure how this works, or how legitimate it is, but its fun breaking down the allure of some type of pseudo-scientific reasoning. It gives us somewhere to place the blame when the crap hits the fan as is usually the case in these types of relationships. I guess. With the pheromones defense, you can blame your inability to walk away on the person's emitting pheromones--drawing you to them subconsciously. You couldn't help it. You were hoodwinked, bamboozled, and now your feelings are running amok.  Totally not your fault. 

I remember talking to a friend about a guy I was into and couldn't seem to shake.  I told her it was just something in his eyes.  "There is nothing in his eyes. He has pupils and you have pupils; that's about it", she said.  We concluded that it was a pheromones attack. You can't trust them.  They'll have you seeing sparkles in folk's eyes and what not.  Pheromones, though, aren't the only thing that will have you feeling all warm and fuzzy. Hennessy will do that, too, literally. 

Hennessy and pheromones are similar in that they both can have an intoxicating effect. Like Kanye admitted, "Henny make girls look like Halle Berry to me". No doubt, it also makes more than a few men look attractive and seem more interesting than they really are.  Hennessy love is a bit different than a basic attraction or powerful pheromones, though. Because its a substance caution is definitely needed.  Hennessy is also different because it can wear off quicker, and once that happens you may realize you made a huge mistake. . At that point you might just start blocking numbers and hiding behind the phone.   

Whether its attraction, pheromones, or Hennessy, left unchecked people usually end up completely enmeshed and intertwined with someone without slowing down to count the cost.  Some people will say its destiny or kismet...it was meant to be.  Yet, only time will tell. Some will say they have an unexplained soul connection, but I recommend a wait and see approach. Its kind of like what doctors do when they monitor something to see if its a potential problem or nothing to worry about... I'm just saying. That may be a bit cynical, but slowing down and being clear minded is healthy. Anyway, whatever it is, I think reasoning and sound judgement should be added to the fun equation. Like Martin Luther the King once said, "I urge you to be sane and rational". This way the either the outcome will be just as great as the initial spark was or...

You will save yourself a world of stress, possible court costs, heartache, and any other ill result you can possibly imagine. #trustme