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Is being grimy the new black?


Pardon me, but this blog is not so funny. 

The game is so different now; it seems that being grimy is the new black.  I was talking to a brother (a cutie by the way...lol) who was dropping knowledge about just how different people are these days.  Even though I think he and I would conclude that some people have always been sociopathic, something is extra at this point.  Usually they say that history repeats itself but in this case not only is history being repeated...its being added to.  There is a new level of widespread grime out here.  It seems that people can look you in the eye, and even shed tears, yet stab you in your front--because stabbing you in the back is just not gutter enough. 

Perhaps this blog was sparked in reflection on the passion of Christ and the betrayal of Judas, or perhaps this blog was sparked in the realization that there are a myriad of Judas-types running rampant among us.  It just seems that we live in a completely scrupleless society where anything goes because a lot of people lack morals or seem to have no consciences.  I still ponder things like:  people setting their friends up, men abandoning their children (even in the womb), folk living triple lives (double lives are so passe now), and the like, and I told this particular brother that I was having a hard time accepting that this is how most people are and he told me, rather matter-of-factly, that I better come to a place of acceptance quickly because if not I would get myself hurt...over and over.   It's kind of what one of my cousins said to me yesterday, "There is no honor amongst thieves, but there used to be--now even that is a thing of the past".  Another male cousin told me that today you have to widen the scope just to see around the corner where your "friends" are coming from.

Being gritty and grimy seems to be the new black.  I remember a time when your people were really your people, but nowadays there is so much conniving and scheming goingon its bananas.  On top of that a lot of people hollering about being real and having knowledge of self are as a fake as bad lace fronts.  Watch their lives and you will know it quickly because they pretend they have not made the mistakes that everybody else has in effort to seem better than most.  The truth is they are just a different type of grimy.  These are they type that seem to be giving you a hand up just to shove you back down and talk about the shame it is that you are struggling the way you are.  Some people kick it with folk who do not care whether or not they live or die, but they stay around to get over.  My mom would say they "deceive to receive".  I think she is correct.

I suppose it took me to be in my 30s before I could really accept that there are way more than a few grimy types and that the world is filled with them.  I suppose knowledge can lead to wisdom and understanding, but it still seems like the level of grit and grim is at an all time high.  Yet, there are those of us who are called to honor and virtue.  We still have to represent well no matter what and watch our backs at the same time. 


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